Being gentle!

Socialism is life these days...! Since last two months living with so many relatives and peers and I am almost addicted to bulk of people, noisy environment and lots of food.

Unfortunately, I can not stop observing people even in these rare situations.

I see people showing different approaches to different age people. I am not even free from that. Example is, we approach to child with lot of affection and love while to aged people we take them for granted and ask them to follow us. On the contrary, one who do not even understand our complete surrender i.e. children we just obey them, request them to love us, hug us, kiss us or do even the silliest thing which we otherwise afraid to do in public. Strange but our mannerism do not allow us in public to show the same level of acceptance, love and care to old age people. Perhaps, they require the same degree or even more love than what we give to children.

Our ego has lot to play in that. When we deal to aged people, we are afraid of counter reflection be it in terms of opinions or acts. We have walls of prejudices and beliefs before appearing to them and which never allow our comfort zone to relax. Few examples of these prejudices and beliefs are - "They never like it?", "They always misunderstand me.", "They style of living is completely different than us, they don't understand what's new and welcoming?" Now on the other side, we have no problems in putting our ego aside in conveying a child but we feel really shy and ashamed of surrendering our ego if the other person is above 30-40 years. Really difficult to understand why age makes us so rigid and I am sure all of us do not even realize this thing. If we realize, those feelings are always late.

Perhaps that's why it is said that it's easy to be knowledgeable than being gentle.

Behind the closed doors

It all looks like Prince of Persia. A gate opens and a new challenge starts.

It has started since schooling. I was really afraid of closed doors and big name plates on them either of principal or of any other. Those fear is certainly fake and without any real weight simply developed and grown by mind. Like all, I have struggled and overcome that fear over a period of time. In profession, I encounter many closed doors with biggest name tags but hardly I am afraid of them. That fear has gone all most without my attention and all suddenly perhaps because I realized the person seating back those doors are nothing but as human or as erroneous like me. It would not be wrong to say that being mature is nothing but to realize that everybody makes mistakes and in line of that I overcome that fear of people and authorities.

I wonder who does actually survive than. Charles Darwin said it's the strongest who survives. Who is strongest than? If you ask me, our confidence of living and approaching has lot to do on our success and that's what makes us strong. We could be the most intelligent, literate or sound by concepts but if we have that fear of facing people, we would be doing what we hear and see in spite of what we learnt and read in books. We almost come under the umbrella of that dominating person and do just what they want us to do. We need to learn to say NO, need to show them a new way and different approaches. We could be thoroughly wrong at times but it's good to fail sometimes and learn by time. It's not only about guts to appear. Guts ends the moment we enter behind that closed doors and see in those monster looking eyes and then our smartness or intelligence has a role to play. Imagine ALIBABA. His guts ended once the door was opened and the rest was because of his smartness that he could handle 40 thieves. Again a great examples of how we should be use our different cards out of guts, smartness and intelligence.

Closed doors are so exciting and challenging at any stage of life no matter we win or loose. It makes us alive.