You don't get to choose it

You dig some,
You dive into some.
You swallow your prides,
You ignore what you look like.
It's only aftermath of hate,
You come across love.
You don't get to choose it,
It happens!

You learn waiting,
You start behaving.
You want to appear smart,
You try to have a laugh.
It's only aftermath of conscious efforts,
You discover an unconscious love.
You don't get to invite it,
It arrives!