When every one is getting engaged...

Day in day out I hear this news now that someone is getting engaged. So I had to write this how does it feel when you are asked first time - "Boss, when are you planning to marry, now?"

As I have been talking about mind (which use to remain in past only) never accept the fact that time has already came. Time is arrived to think about going two and getting married. It's not an event but a process. This happens periodically in a human being life but it looks so sudden amusement to mind because mind loves singing the songs of past. Past made up of school life, college life and career life. No body, trust me, no young generation would be planning for marriage. How come they plan for them? Their parents, their teachers, their friends, neighbors, peers - all are talking about making a career. That too starting from the standard 10. Remember or not but this number 10 used to be a very freaking dream in our life since then everybody has mechanized youngsters mind to make a career. Then comes 12th. Then comes graduation, a professional degree, a decision to start own or to get a job, further study? Oh I forgot the salary jumps and money making advices. See, we never being told during this era to think about getting married or selecting a partner because what has been shown as a target is career.

In making that career, we have given up everything. Sleep, innocence, education (make sure we get degrees not education), family, town, social touch, sports (please don't forget that which could have been emerged as a career itself) and what not! We certainly end up getting a good career, degrees and self-confidence. Then now what is this marriage? Why do people want us to tie? This confidence itself is now questioning to all those who mechanized us for career because now you have started thinking yourself. You have started applying your mind for your own. How can you accept someone's decision for your life? Then education becomes a curse because an educated mind will think logically. What is the logic of getting married? - He can not accept it as a mere existing truth because now that mind is habituated for thesis, laboratory tests, analytical processes and other craps.

Parents and children stand on their own boarders. Formers are experienced and later are educated so where both wrestlers are equally competent only work left to the refery is to check the time. Children and parents! A very beautiful and somewhat strange relationship! When you are child your parents will take your smartness as their own pride but if you are smart enough to delay your marriage date they will be annoyed of your smartness. They always wanted you to get well educated but if you are too educated not to believe in holy concept of marriage then they will be disappointed of your "n" number of degrees. You could be an IS officer but can not be unmarried. Children, on the other hand, don't know how to speak when they are child so they cry and make their parents understand and when they become young, educated now language even won't be enough to make them understand. Top of all, their ego won't let them cry as well.

Nobody is against marriage. Nobody can mechanize or let me use this word - hypnotize a human being not to marry. Those who say they don't want to get married are playing with themselves only or are confused whether to go in or out. Don't make it definite like it has to be arrange or love or live in or anything because then you are talking about way and not about purpose itself. Parents, sometimes, are afraid of their own children that they won't get married (or should I write afraid of not getting married in the way they want them to) but they have to understand a human being is never that sort of animal who can live alone. Scientifically, no animal can. Animals are better because they have not made it definite like 7 round circles, a holy priest, a red powder or just two signatures but then it makes me think they are human beings only who love traditions.

In end, commitment is the cap of courageous. Be it.